You may have noticed a sharp decline in posts the past couple weeks (or not, if you aren’t a regular here). Well, Kari and I had our hands full with a sick cat named Rufus who was our little buddy for almost 13 years. Last week we had to say goodbye, and the people who helped us with this process, Lap Of Love, have a website where you can write a memorial to your pet. I spent most of yesterday, working off and on, writing a eulogy. I don’t write much personal stuff on here, sticking to the music opinions keeps me detached from you so as to not let a personal feeling cloud whether you accept my reviews of albums.
So, for once, here’s something very very very personal:
“And as the years go by, our friendship will never die. You’re gonna see it’s our destiny. You’ve got a friend in me.”
The deep sadness we have felt over the last few days is a great reminder of the joy that Rufus brought into our lives. The stillness in our home makes clear the notion that he was the chattiest of kitties. It is also a reminder that all things must come to an end in order to fully appreciate all the good things life brings.
We adopted Rufus and his sister, Chloe, when they were a mere 8 weeks old. In the more than 12 years since he’s proven to be a sweet traveling companion as we moved from Indiana to Buffalo, NY, on to Iowa and finally settling here in Chicago. Regardless of his surroundings he always found ways to amuse himself: yelling at birds and chipmunks from our first floor apartment in Iowa, playing with his favorite catnip banana, and pretending to be a feline sundial are just a few of the ways he loved to spend his time. He also enjoyed posing for instagram photos, though probably not as much as we thought he did.
10 months ago when he was diagnosed with cancer, he made sure we knew that he was a fighter, and loved us too much to go just then. But as time wore on, his condition worsened. A sharp decline last week led to the ultimate decision to say goodbye. Still, he was chirping and purring despite obvious discomfort. He was always a very happy cat, and we will miss him very much.
“Some other folks might be a little bit smarter than I am. Bigger and stronger too. Maybe, but none of them will ever love you the way I do. It’s me and you boy” -Randy Newman
And here’s a playlist of some songs I thought would be fitting for his send off.